CREATING OUR OWN REALITY
“ENLIGHTENMENT IS THE CERTAIN KNOWLEDGE OF ABSOLUTE TRUTH: THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH IS THAT THOUGHT IS CREATIVE” - Leonard Orr, founder of Rebirthing
Whether we are aware of it or not we are constantly creating our surroundings: the type of relationships we have, the amount of material wealth, our level of internal satisfaction - all are results of our internal expectations, our beliefs of what to expect from life. These are based on what we believe, what we think we deserve, our previous experience and the teaching of our parents, family and culture.
This truth helps to explain the different ideas taken for granted within families, which may in fact be remarkably inconsistent when put under scrutiny. We are brought up with “This is what happens, this is the way the world works” and so we see that which we have been shown. The brain likes to collect ideas together so we search out from our experiences things that make sense to us and ‘Prove the Rule’. It takes quite a jolt for us to look critically at what we have been taught and often we don’t until we find it doesn’t work for us, we feel unwell and unhappy and we want something more from life. There has been a slight cultural shift in that it has become acceptable for people to expect an improved quality of life (e.g. the increase in the divorce rate may not mean that marriages are no longer working as we may suppose that they were, merely that people are asking for more - seeing that there may be something better,) and so more people are allowing themselves the choice of looking.
Once we see what we would like to change, and what our beliefs so far have been we can change the programme. This takes acceptance of where we are - the current belief, why we needed it, forgiveness of ourselves for any mistake we seem to have made, and a thorough outline of what we now want. What to do to change your reality: change your thought...
1. Awareness of current belief (this is covered in the next chapter).
2. A ‘shopping list’ for what we now want.
3. Affirmations to assure us that we can do it - a response column to find our resistances (see appendix).
4. “Cutting the ties” process if the change involves separation from someone we depend on for our image of self and forgiving them (see bibliography).
5. Circular breathing at any time of stress in the process.
6. Acknowledgement of ourselves as powerful beings able to create changes.
Because of the fashions of child-rearing in the recent past, the best way to feed your baby (and perhaps form its character by whatever method chosen) became an issue decided by the expert of the day. The reality for many adults today is that eating is not associated with simple pleasure; it becomes complicated by our beliefs and past experiences. This is an example of how our past creates our present reality. (People worry about eating too much, being greedy or selfish, they believe they will have to pay for their enjoyment one way (getting fat?) or another. They forget that we eat to live and we are in a state of abundance.)